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I have been blogging here for over 10 years now and have decided to publish some material I still believe in from those days until the end of February in celebration.


As those who follow me very well know, I love to talk about focus, so here is one of my favourite posts about the importance of focus to be able to accomplish anything we set our mind to:



December 18, 2007 by Enviroart

Today, as we approach Christmas, I have to push myself to get into the Christmas spirit. No more young enthusiastic children bouncing around me asking if they are going to get their wishes from Santa. No more of their laughter and smiles, their jumping around asking how many more days, opening their chocolate calendar everyday counting the nights between now and the Big Day.


We are literally buried in snow this year. Unlike previous years, we have had a large amount of snow in 2 storms within the last 10 days and it is beautiful outside: White everywhere, blue sky, the sun shining, at least it was yesterday. Everything looks pure and clean but… wait a minute isn’t it what people dream about? A white Christmas? What’s the problem then? Our focus is the problem.


It is sometimes difficult to look around us and appreciate what our eyes can capture. Beauty, nature, the pleasure, the privilege I should say of breathing fresh air. We are so lucky here to have clean water and relatively clean air. Why is it so difficult sometimes to see and appreciate it? All these worries we carry in our head, all these aches and pains we notice in our body? What about what doesn’t hurt? Why don’t we notice this?


I digress but it is important for me this morning to look at what is not wrong instead of what is wrong and needs to be fixed. How many of us spend our lives looking at what is wrong and wanting to fix it? Not that this is wrong since we need people to fix things, right? But we also need balance and you cannot spend your life focusing on what is wrong in your life, your relatives’ and friends’ lives, the world. And in order to make things better, we must find a balance and find a way to feel somewhat at peace and happy.


The best way to do this is to take a quick inventory of what is not wrong. Not even necessarily what is right. Focus is everything. There are a lot of things that are NOT wrong in your life. Just the fact that you can breathe without any help, that you can feel your breath enter your lungs and come out, feeding your body with oxygen, this tells you that you are alive and that everything is possible. There is pollution, there is unrest and wars, there are conflicts but there is also beauty, there is nature there is kindness all around us. Focus is everything.


In the end, you are responsible only to yourself and your children of course if they are still young and dependent. After all you did choose to bring them into the world and you do have a responsibility to give them the proper tools to become their own persons. But other than that, you are not responsible for anybody else really. This is hard to comprehend and harder still to apply. We have husbands, wives, friends, families that we all feel need us to be a certain way, to act like expected to be what they think we are. This is very draining at the end.


Torn between guilty feelings, expectations, obligations, we sometimes created ourselves. But in the end, would our acting any different really change anything in these people’s lives? They would certainly get over it if we did not act according to their expectations. But the biggest disappointment is when we disappoint ourselves because of our own need to be perfect or to fulfill someone’s image of ourselves that often does not correspond to reality.


Focus is everything and Mahatma Gandhi said: “Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony”. Look deep inside, reach in and find one thing to do today that is really in harmony with your true self. Make a list of what is not wrong with your life.


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I have been out of the blogosphere for a few days: My new and first grandson arrived on Monday. He’s absolutely perfect !


Waiting for him was a very stressful time for me, having lost a healthy girl at birth 34 years ago, I constantly doubted a happy outcome. Thank God my daughter did not have to live through this horrible experience and all went well with her and the baby.

I started a series of small canvases during her pregnancy and here are two that express the expectations but also the total unknown that opens up once you know you are growing a life inside of you.

Le voyage ©2015Suzanne Belair Acrylic on canvas 10

Le voyage
©2015Suzanne Belair
Acrylic on canvas 10″ X 10″

Le voyage (The trip)

The mother is entering a forest
Walking towards a small lake
There are clouds of uncertainty ahead but
Hope is carrying her throughout this journey

Vers l'inconnu (Towards the unknown) ©2015 Suzanne Belair Acrylic on canvas 10

Vers l’inconnu (Towards the unknown)
©2015 Suzanne Belair
Acrylic on canvas 10″ X 10″

Vers l’inconnu (Towards the unknown)

The mother leaves doubts behind her
She will come out of the forest of uncertainty
With confidence towards a new unknown world
Filled with love, enchantment and devotion

Photos, paintings and texts ©Suzanne Bélair


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Almost one month since I last posted… Time is flying by and with the holidays coming, everyone is really busy…

It has been really cold in this part of the continent. This morning, we saw the thermometer  plunge  at -28°C. Yes very cold for this time of the year… This however gives us more time to create with an incentive to stay indoors with our paints, canvases and books and computers.

I had talked about my 3 canvases used for an exercise of non-attachment and posted the first one in November. Here are the other two.

These 2 paintings have become important to me. They are so different from my usual work and I feel they reflect exactly my concerns at the time of creation.

Little Angel ©2013 Suzanne Bélair Acrylic on Canvas 18 X 18

Little Angel
©2013 Suzanne Bélair
Acrylic on Canvas 18 X 18

With “Little angel” I expressed the plight of abused animals, cattle and pigs used and often brutally abused for our consumption without regard for their feelings, the unborn babies destined for slaughter.

Vortex ©2013 Suzanne Bélair Acrylic on Canvas 18 X 18

©2013 Suzanne Bélair
Acrylic on Canvas 18 X 18

“Vortex” expresses how hectic and out of control our lives sometimes become when we let outside demands pull us from all directions. There is fire and flames for speed. This painting expresses a lot of energy.

This process (see: Creativity and attachment on November 2nd) also helps with the action of banishing our worst enemy: our inner critic. As artists, we must stay alert to our tendency to take our work too seriously and become once again the perfectionist some of us have been brought up to be or have developed on our own in search of success.

We must remain vigilant of not letting old patterns take over and start with the auto-critique or rather self-criticism as it often turns out to be. I for one easily fall prey to these thoughts and must work at excluding them from my mindset when I work. I have often taken a framed painting and reworked it, even after it has been shown. Not a good practice and one that keeps me in the same place instead of moving forward.

We must move on. Who are we trying to satisfy anyhow? We live with the illusion that someone will see the same way we do, but everyone’s perception is different from the other. We must expect the best of ourselves while still enjoying the present moment and surprises our art will bring us and the viewer.



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